A Guide to Choosing Godparents

05 June, 2018

A Guide to Choosing Godparents

When you’re expecting a new baby there are so many decisions to make, but one that may be keeping you up at night, is who to choose as your baby’s godparents?

Whether you’re religious or not, this is still an important decision that can weigh heavily on you when you’re unsure of who to pick and why.

The experience you have had of your own godparents will add to this concern, as you want to entrust your child into the hands of those you believe can be relied upon, as well as act as a close friend and mentor to the child as they grow-up.

To help you come to some conclusions about who in your circle should be gifted with this honour, we’ve listed all the things you should consider.


Godparents vs Guardians

For many modern parents, the idea of godparents may feel like too much of a  religious tradition, which is why the term guardians have become popular.

Promises don’t have to be made in faith, as naming ceremonies have increased, a pledge to the family from the guardians to the child has become a key feature in the ceremony, and provides an overwhelming sense of relief for parents that they have chosen people who are willing to help and support in the upbringing of the child.


Relatives and Friends

Many people believe that you can only select friends as godparents, but this is simply not true as relatives can also be chosen for the role.  

The most important part about who you choose is how confident you feel in their ability to support your child and offer unwavering protection.


The Number of Godparents

Traditionally in the Christian faith, three godparents are the requirement, but even the Royals have broken with tradition by giving Prince George and Princess Charlotte seven role models.

Don’t feel that you have to limit it in any way. Whether you wish to have a religious Christening ceremony or a modern naming ceremony, choose those that you believe in and have been there for you.


What Are the Requirements?

If you are having a religious ceremony, godparents may have to be baptised or christened before becoming the child’s godparent. However, if you are choosing a naming ceremony there are no specific requirements that they must fulfill.

The most critical requirements are those that you want from your child’s godparent.

What are the values and beliefs that you would like them to have?

Do you want them to be a significant part of your child’s life?

You need to set out exactly what you expect from your child’s godparents so that you not only choose well but also can detail these expectations to the godparents so they understand the responsibility that is being requested of them.


Questions to Ask Yourself

Aside from how you would like your child’s godparents to be part of their life, you also need to ask yourself some basic questions to ensure you’re choosing your child’s godparents with a real reason in mind.

It can be very easy to be swayed by relatives or influenced by new friendships, so this list will help you clarify some of the finer points and help you think logically about who you want in your child’s life.

How long have you known them?

How much do you trust them?

Would they be good in a worst case scenario?  


While it’s never a nice thing to think about, you have to feel confident they will take care of your child no matter what happens.  





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